You can learn to come to the point where your real goal is not to change the other person, or to convince the other person of anything. Your real goal is to establish the flow from your higher being through your heart and having it be expressed in this world. You can learn to find the joy in feeling that flow. You can learn to find satisfaction, fulfillment and completeness in having the flow go forth from you without having any expectations of what the other person’s reaction should be, and what kind of a return you will get.
When the other person responds positively, then two or more people who are freely sharing, can very quickly build an upward spiral that uplifts all of them and pulls you higher and higher. Still, there is a joy in feeling the flow go out regardless of whether anything positive comes back to multiply the flow. You can learn to be willing and daring to share from the heart no matter what other people’s reactions might be. You can come to the point where you are not expecting a particular reaction from other people. You are not wanting them to react a certain way. You are not needing them to validate or affirm you because you have come to that point where you realize that the best gift you can give on this planet is to be yourself, to share of yourself, and to have a flow from your higher being through your heart.
It is very important to realize that you do not need to have any particular state of perfection. You do not need to reach a certain level on the path to higher awareness. You do not need to reach a certain level of discernment in order to have the flow through the heart. It is truly a matter of being willing to have that flow by opening yourself to allow the flow to happen. In order to allow it to happen, most of you will have to find a way to neutralize this concern for other people’s reactions.
How the manipulators limit communication
There are many ways that the manipulators have attempted to manipulate you in order to prevent you from expressing your higher awareness, but if there was one overall simple mechanism that is very easy to understand, it is simply this: They have managed to get you into thinking that when you express yourself on this planet, you should be concerned about their reactions. Therefore, you should adapt your expression to other people’s reactions. You may think this is the people around you, but really when you step back, you see that it is a mechanism created by the manipulators where they want all people to think that they have to adapt the expression of their hearts to the expectations and standards of the manipulators.
Most people do not know this consciously but this is what they have managed to create, so that you do not feel free in expressing yourself. If you do not feel free in expressing yourself, well, then it is very difficult to have the flow of higher awareness because the flow needs an open door to flow through. It needs freedom to express because many times when you are in the flow, you find yourself saying things that you had not planned, that you had not thought out, that you had not even thought about before. Suddenly, they come out and you realize that this is not your little concerned, frustrated, angry, afraid mind that is saying this. This is your higher being that this is coming from. Sometimes you become surprised yourself at what wisdom and insight can come from you in these situations when you allow the free flow.
Sometimes this is how you have the greatest learning experiences, not by hearing some external source, or another person, or by reading a book, but actually when you have that flow from your higher being and it is your higher being speaking through you. It is speaking exactly in a way that goes right into your mind and resolves one of these enigmas you have had, resolves one of these limitations. Suddenly, it helps you see something you could never see before because nobody had expressed it in words that were exactly right for you and that clicked in your mind so that you were instantly seeing this mechanism, and instantly free from it. The greatest teacher you have is actually your own higher being, the teacher within yourself. The being that you already are but that you have been manipulated into thinking that you are not allowed to express while you are in a physical body on a planet as limited and as dark as earth.
Recognizing the flow of higher awareness
The higher awareness bloweth where it listeth. It expresses itself through whomever it desires, and chooses at that moment. Therefore, none have a monopoly, none are the exclusive ones, and none are excluded from being the instrument of the higher awareness if they are willing. You can feel that certainly someone spoke with a deeper sense of love, of heartfeltness, of sincerity than they normally did. You may think that this was not the flow of higher awareness, but it was. It was the flow of awareness through you from your higher being.
It does not always have to be in some dramatic fashion. Many times in conversations you can have that flow of higher awareness. Most of you have had it, most of you have recognized it at times. Many times you do not recognize it, you do not quite acknowledge that you are able to be the open doors of the higher awareness and you can be more and more conscious of allowing this flow, being the open door. It does not necessarily have to be some pompous thing, some long thing. It can be one sentence that is said with a greater feeling than normal, and that can be enough to shift another person’s consciousness as they need to be shifted at that moment.
There is not a single person, who has walked the path of higher awareness for some time, who does not have the potential to help others. If you have overcome one aspect of your ego, then you can help other people overcome that aspect. You might be the only one they will meet for a long time, and therefore you need to be more willing to be the open door, to allow these flows of higher awareness through you in many different situations. This is not about converting people to a particular religion or teaching. This is not about getting them to do outer things. It is about giving them some idea, some insight, or maybe even just an infusion of love that somehow shifts their consciousness one step upwards. Maybe they had never experienced it before.
Changing people through the flow
Many people in the world have never experienced someone speaking to them without an intent, without wanting to manipulate them or to put them down, or criticize or judge them. Many people have never, ever met a person who did not judge or criticize them, but who simply radiated love and acceptance to them.
Perhaps by saying one kind remark, you can change a person’s life because you give them an experience they have never had before. The experience is real to them, and they experience the reality of the flow of higher awareness coming through you. They cannot deny it and suddenly they have a frame of reference that there is a different way that human beings can interact than what they have experienced so far, where it is all this “fight or flight” and manipulation and unkindness, and all of these human surface interactions.
There is a need for overcoming this superficial, derogatory or judgmental conversation that people have so many times. Many times, communication is so superficial because people are so insecure when they meet a stranger that they do not quite know how to talk to somebody, and so they revert back into some kind of pattern that is considered safe in their culture. Often it is to use some kind of humor that is slightly ironic or putting yourself down. While there is not necessarily anything hugely wrong with this, it does not facilitate communication from the heart. It can be sometimes okay to use humor to “break the ice,” as they say, but what if you do not have any ice in your own being that needs to be broken up?
Have you looked at yourself and seen how many times, when you meet a stranger, it is your own insecurity that is talking rather than the security of your higher self? Some people have psychological issues and have to resolve those issues before they can talk freely with people they do not know. But for many, you have resolved enough of these issues that it really is just a switch in the mind, a turning of the dial of the mind. You recognize that you have had this insecurity, this shyness in yourself, but you no longer need it. In fact, it limits you, and you can make a decision that you will reconnect to your higher being in your heart. You will allow yourself to speak from that level rather than speaking from the level of the outer mind and having to break the ice and feel the other person out before you dare to open up from the heart.
You can come to a point where you are always speaking from the heart, or at least very often speaking from the heart when the situation is there for it. Sometimes, you have a practical conversation where there is not necessarily any openness for speaking from the heart. You can learn to recognize when that openness is there, and you can speak from the heart from the very beginning without having to go through this little song-and-dance that people outplay where they feel each other out. They try to figure out what it is safe to say to this other person so they do not offend them and get a negative reaction back.
Speaking from the heart is always safe
If you speak from the heart, it is always safe. Even if the other person takes offense, as long as you stay in the heart, you will not be offended by their reaction. You will not be put off by it. You will be able to continue speaking from the heart, and as long as you can continue speaking from the heart, there is a possibility that you will help the other person shift out of their focus on the outer mind. They can then reconnect to the heart and then there is a much greater opportunity that you will have a heart-based conversation.
This is not such a far-flung goal. When you have experienced it, you can begin to carry that out with you and also experience it in other situations. Have you experienced that you suddenly meet a person or you sit next to them in the plane or in the airport or in the train, and suddenly a conversation starts going and you have a deeper, more heart-felt communication with that person than you have ever before had with a stranger? This is because you are much more free to share of yourself, and that is why the other person can sometimes sense this and then they open up and suddenly there is that flow.
You can switch the mind so that, in many situations, you can have that openness, that willingness to share something from the heart. Then, you will find that you will attract to you more people who are open to that level of communication, who are actually longing for that level of communication, because many, many people are.
Not everybody is ready for it, surely. People who are self-centered are not open to a heart-felt communication because they have such patterns in their minds that they are always feeling insecure and threatened. They need to have every human interaction follow the pattern that gives them some sense of being in control. If you speak from the heart to them, they will not have experienced this before, they will not know what to do with it in their minds, and therefore often they will close off or give you a negative reaction. Well, in that case, you just move on, but many people, and more and more people, are longing for a genuine communication.